Make sure that the Rule of Life is realistic. The best way to start is to write down what you are currently doing even if you don’t think of it as a Rule of Life. If the Rule is overly optimistic and the ideal to which you are striving, there is a danger that instead of being a help it will lead to a sense of anger, frustration and guilt. Use words like "usually" or "normally" and don’t be afraid to discuss it with your Spiritual Director, Pastor, or a close friend. The Rule of Life is meant to help you in your Spiritual Journey and not to be a hindrance. If you are already keeping a Rule of Life as a member of the Brotherhood of St Andrew, Daughters of the King, or other group, you do not necessarily need to start from scratch. You can adapt it to fit your Franciscan identity.

You do not need to be an Episcopalian or Anglican to be an Associate of the Society of St Francis. Feel free to reflect your spiritual practices and experience in other denominations/religions in your Rule of Life. If you are in 12-2tep Recovery, your morning practice may well be included as part of your Rule of Life.

The Rule of Life should include the Obligations of an Associate. They may be elaborated upon and/or your particular observance described.

1. To pray to God and read some verses of the Bible every day.

2. To attend Holy Communion regularly.

3 To make use of the sacrament of reconciliation or some other method of examination of conscience and penance.

4 To practice responsible stewardship of resources.

5 To support your Franciscan Brothers and Sisters in the Society of St. Francis through your prayers and gifts.

6 To respond to God's call to the service of others in the situation of your life.

7 To deepen your knowledge of God and the faith through study and retreats.

8 To write a Rule of Life and correspond with the Secretary for Associates at least once a year.

The Rule of Life may include items that are important to you.

Keep one copy of the Rule for yourself and mail one copy to: